Okay, but you see that's also actually pretty distressing? Because I know probably don't think... we're gonna stick to the stabbing example - you probably don't think that being stabbed is that big a deal. But for the vast majority of us? Stabbing kills people. And it's extremely upsetting to think about someone you love being stabbed because, again, mein herz, I cannot stress this enough that normally kills people.

So even if it's not a big deal for you? For us? Me? The "oh hey my boyfriend got stabbed!" is actually a really worrying concept to deal with. And it would be easier to process if you gave it just a smidge more gravitas? Just a little. And this does not mean avoid telling us because it's easier to do that than let us be worried about something that happened to you, I'm headed that one off at the pass.

Just. I don't know. Understand that what's not a big scary injury to you might be to us and understand we probably need to be let gently into a "I got stabbed today". Probably accept you're gonna get a little fussing about it too. A little.